Happy Birthday, Jacob Boyd!
Let me begin by saying that I am quite aware of how fortunate I am. So often I hesitate to comment on the many wonderful things my husband does for me or with me, or express the fun and joy that we experience on a daily basis. I hesitate because it seems selfish, and pompous even, to only announce the good things about your spouse, your marriage, your kids, etc, out into cyberspace when the reality for so many people is daily turmoil, hardships, and strife. It’s true – Jacob and I have a marriage that I’m continually blown away by. He loves me, challenges me, sweeps me off of my feet. We grow and learn together, we set goals, and we REACH them. And yes, we also argue. Duh, man. But I’m not going to talk about the bad stuff online – arguments, quarrels, what have you – so if I’m not willing to talk about the good AND the bad, then I typically choose not to talk about us online very often (though I AM guilty of it on occasion).
But today is my husband’s birthday. And despite my hesitation to announce ONLY the good things about our marriage and life, that is EXACTLY what I’m about to do. Because on your birthday that’s exactly what you deserve: someone to scream from the mountaintops how wonderful you are, and how much you are loved and appreciated. But I don’t have a mountaintop, I have this blog… you’ve been warned.
Here is a small fraction of what makes Jacob so incredible:
Jacob made straight A’s this semester in grad school, while working two jobs to support our family. The man worked his butt off, waking up at 5:30 and 6:00 most days to get to one job on time, and stayed up until 3, 4, 5:00 am on test weeks to study and write papers. This kind of selflessness and discipline allowed me to pursue freelance graphic design. And when I tried, and I’ll tell you I TRIED to convince him that I should find a full-time job at a company in order to earn more money so that he could quit one of his jobs, he wouldn’t have it. He enjoyed providing and working hard so that I could get my business off the ground.
He cooks, he cleans, without being asked. WITHOUT BEING ASKED. And he’s GOOD at it. Like, better than I am in a lot of cases. He is more detailed than I am, which makes him better at following recipes and cleaning meticulous things. He also has an incredible ability to focus, and follows things through until they are perfect. He plans meals and writes grocery lists, the whole nine yards. He calls me “the daily chef” and himself “the special-guest chef”, which is cute. I can’t tell you how many time I’ve come home from an errand or work, and he has cleaned the house. I honestly don’t know where he finds the time to do it. Yes, I still clean and cook of course, but we also clean and cook TOGETHER.
He challenges me to become a better woman, just by being himself. By being the man that works, goes to school, cooks, and cleans, he encourages me to be better. I honestly can’t imagine a marriage that didn’t include us encouraging each other to improve in multiple areas of life, because I’ve never experienced anything different. We strive onward, always. Always to improve, never to decline or stay the same. In health, in habits, in our spiritual lives. Through and through, down to his core, he just wants peace and for everyone to be truthful and loving. He hates gossip and slander, and loves his friends deeply. He is extremely loyal and faithful. He calms my nerves, he helps guide my decisions, and he has true wisdom.
And that’s just the beginning.
So here’s to all of the wonderful and incredible things about Jacob Boyd! Here’s to the many more years we have in store! And here’s to striving onward toward strengthening our relationship, building depth in our friendships, and working to create a life of value and romance. Lots and lots of romance.
Jacob, you are truly the love of my life and the closest friend I have ever and will ever have. I find you stunning.
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You have encouraged me today. We love you both. So much.